Are Your Teens Out of Control Because Peer Pressure Made Them Do It?

"You really can't blame kids for getting into drugs..."kids are much smarter than we, their predecessors.
my friend said. "Peer Pressure is just too much forThey invented the term, Peer Pressure, and have
them." Oh, no!, I thought. There's that word again.managed to convince not only their elders, but also
What is this thing called Peer Pressure, anyway? Itthemselves, that it, alone, is what makes them cheat
seems that this mysterious malady is responsible foron tests, drive under the influence of alcohol, lie,
the majority of anti-social and illegal acts we readsteal, take drugs, and do a lot of other things
about in our morning papers. The perpetratorfrowned upon by society. As a result, when they end
involved is usually absolved, partially if not wholly, byup in trouble, they are merely tragic victims of that
convincing everyone that Peer Pressure made him dohorrible ogre, Peer Pressure.
it.Times have really changed; the world has become
What a brilliant scheme---and why didn't someonemuch more compassionate than it was when I was a
come up with it in my day?child. Would you believe it? In my day, they called
Peer Pressure, where were you the time I put mudthese helpless victims, "juvenile delinquents!"
on Dean McFarland's tricycle seat? If I rememberSeriously, it is difficult to raise kids today who don't
correctly, this deed was done at the suggestion of atoccasionally do something against their (and our)
least one of my peers; a boy who insinuated thatbetter judgment just because everyone else is doing
those who didn't take part in the "dirty" deed wouldit, too, and they don't want to look like an oddball, or
forever afterward be known as "chickens", a fate"chicken."
we evidently regarded as worse than death, becauseOne of the best cures our family has found for peer
we quickly gathered 'round and joined in thepressure is to have our kids project a little peer
slathering.pressure of their own. Bright colored T-Shirts, with
And what about the time Grandma almost disownedthe words, "Just Do What's Right!" across the front
me for braiding her string mop into a hundred littleof them help state their position from the beginning
pigtails while two of my sisters smothered snickers,and serve as a reminder for them to ask, when
and egged me on. Did you, Peer Pressure, getconfronted with a questionable choice, "Is this really
blamed? Not a chance. I suffered a tongue lashing Ithe right thing to do?"
have not forgotten to this day! And even after I hadSurprisingly, they receive very little heckling about the
grown children of my own, I could never lookshirts. Instead, most of the kids think they are
Grandma straight in the eye for fear she would bring"Cool," and a few have even asked where they can
up that awful deed, again.get similar shirts. (Most malls have a kiosk where you
And then there was the great Huckleberry Finncan tell them what you want printed on a t-shirt and
caper. With your help, Peer Pressure, I'm sure I couldthey will be happy to accomodate you--for a price,
have avoided the humiliation of being publicly yankedof course, but it is usually less than buying an already
off the raft my friends and I were sailing down theprinted t-shirt with something else on it---something
South Fork of the Willamette River. Lots of peoplethat you might not want your kids to wear, anyway.
were there that day, but not a sign of you, so I'mRemind your kids that peer pressure is no excuse.
sure you'll forgive me for sometimes doubting yourThey are smart kids and you expect them to think
existence.for themselves and come up with the right decisions
I'm inclined to believe that the real truth is, today'sjust because they are right.